3 Reasons I know you aren't actually "Waiting on God"
I recently posted on Facebook this simple encouragement:
Although it was a simple statement of encouragement, it elicited a really honest question: "How do you know when to wait and when to move?" So, I want to tackle this question because nothing irritates me more than the thinly veiled lie of, "I'm waiting on God."
Reason 1: Your "waiting" is actually "hesitation"
Be honest with yourself: You are afraid to step out. You are afraid to start that business, to meet that person, to write that book. It's spiritual sounding to say, "Oh, I'm just waiting on God," but I know that you know....you're afraid. As a matter of fact, many times I've actually prayed, "God, now you've given Moses a burning bush, Mary an angel...if you don't divinely disrupt me, I'm going after this. I'm facing the fear. I've read your word. I've sought out godly advice...and I think this is the right thing, so STOP ME if it isn't." Now this might offend your theology, but I don't care. When I read scripture, I see "whoah boys," not "go boys". In other words, God seems to work intimately with people already doing something. Again, Jesus recruited 12 men who were already working. Sure, in a philosophical sense you can "wait on something while you work," but I'm taking about something deeper. This is refusing to move out of fear and pretending it's a spiritual process of "waiting".
Reason 2: Your "waiting" is actually "laziness"
"Waiting on God" has got to be one of the most grandiose covers for laziness we have ever created! Your destiny has become the proverbial term-paper in High School. You keep putting it off out of shear laziness. You're comfortable in your mediocrity. You're surviving (however painfully), and pretending to "wait on God" keeps your friends at bay and buys you more time to stall. I have actually given people the opportunity to do the very thing they say they're destined to do and watched them turn it down and reveal the fear and laziness in their waiting. Just like the High School term-paper, you'll wait until the end and realize the A+ isn't an option. Don't miss out on precious time to work your dreams now before the catalyst of disease, divorce, or tragedy reminds you of the true due date.
Reason 3: Your "waiting" is actually "confusion"
This is a hard one for me to address. Confusion runs rampant in our culture. One of my mentors once said that you can diffuse light over a room in a million directions and it loses the power it could have had as a laser beam. I feel that many of us have surrendered so fully to confusion that our light is diffused across the clutter we call "our lives" and we are rendered nearly powerless. There's a special force you encounter when you meet someone who devotes their entire life to one thing. You can almost feel it radiating off of them. Reckless abandon. All in. No turning back. V1. You can see the result of them leaving the comfort of fear (yes, fear can be comforting in that it's familiar), the comfort of laziness (choosing the pain of the same over the pain of change), and the comfort of confusion (reserving the right to quit when you don't understand). People who reject confusion, or refuse it power to render them powerless, and go all in on their gut instincts almost always succeed. It's like this quote I discovered at 17 years old when I was enrolling in college on the backside of dropping out of high school and financially supporting my mother and four siblings:
“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”
I'm going to close this out with a thought from a V1 Church member and friend:
"A waiter in a restaurant doesn't wait on tables the same way the customer waits for the very same table. The waiter is practicing service and listening while the customer needs to practice stillness and patience to only take a seat when the time is right. We are supposed to be both in balance." Heather Wrigley